Monday, May 15

母親節

昨天是母親節,
看了些資料,
知道些母親節的由來;
(左圖是安娜。賈維斯,母親節的創導人)

一直覺得,母親節被商業化得太厲害了,
賣點卡片,小禮物,不失溫馨,
大量的廣告,看見商機背後的貪婪.....

覺得大家做起母親生意,
有些不對。

無論我們對母親的情感如何,
平常的關心,
應該重於節日的儀式才對;
可惜,
人們卻把紀念日的美意,糟蹋了。

無怪乎,Anna Jarvis(安娜,賈維斯;母親節創啟人,請按連結
由於母親節的商業化,
重形式,而不重懷念感恩;
晚年,後悔,
因她呼籲而成立的母親節。
詳見連結

今晨,我寫了,
"2006寫於母親節之後",
刊在"心靈漫步"(請按連結

一篇
一面懷念,
一面擔憂的文字。

92 comments:

echo said...

昨天
回家的路上
想了很多很多很多...
關於母親節
該怎麼..表示..送禮..或者..

連日的睡眠不足
才相信有人可以站著竟睡著
發現自己騎車騎到快睡著,眼前的路開始模糊
感覺
家怎麼那麼遠,兩旁都是稻田...永遠沒有盡頭的田

回家
我兩手空空
倒是
阿母為我煮了一碗麵

早上十一點才回到家
吃了麵
陪阿母聊天
陪小侄子玩
下午一點禁不住睏見床就睡了
五點醒來,洗過澡,下樓
阿母又煮好一碗麵,等我
吃了麵
陪阿母聊天
陪小侄子玩
六點四十分,離開家,戀戀回首

阿母在等我的禮物嗎,或者表示?
我不能裝作這個節日不存在
離開家之前,在廚房
我摟著她的肩

阿母,失禮,下次再補給妳
我一定會好好努力的

這兩年來
為了自己的堅持和目標
毫不猶豫的走下去,儘管過程艱辛
家人,沒有說什麼
選擇默默支持,即使,過程中也連累他們的付出
而我是
很感恩很感恩的非常感恩

母親節
不論是否淪為商業化
總是
正大光明且大張旗鼓的提醒並宣告
應該對母親表示一些什麼

就例如我吧
是的
當然
平時裡,就應該要感恩母親
不是非要等這一天
可是這一天
不能被忽略的這一天
提醒著我
要特別表示什麼
即使只是一個擁抱
提醒著我
要再多說一次感恩

商機當然是貪婪的
但如果連這一天都沒有了
連這樣的大張旗鼓的宣示都沒有了
“母親”,會不會被遺忘得更無影踪
孝順是應該的,人做的事
而這天
提醒一下忘記要孝順的人,應該要記得
能夠日日身體力行行孝,是最上好,
不能的話,由這一日來提醒──不要忘記
也是退而求其次吧


純粹只是感想.非關什麼
我很少抱阿母
至少,昨天
雖然沒禮物
也趁機抱了一下呢

姚仁祿 said...

謝謝Echo分享:

以自己最誠摯的愛
獻給母親
無論何時
無論是否在母親節
都是無妨

我想
對父母最大的報答
就是奉獻社會
贏得尊敬

當然
如果不當的言行
不入流的品行
像最近媒體不斷評論的弊案
無論是貪污
還是殺人

我看
絕對不是他們母親
當年懷胎時的期待

這樣品德的人
不如不要出生吧

地球人已經六十幾億
超載太多了

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echo said...

"這樣品德的人
不如不要出生吧"

好哇
難得在您的語氣中
嗅到一絲這麼直接了當的"厭"


我們當然希望這樣品德的人不要出生
但就像您對"苦.集.滅.道"
疑惑是個矛盾的錯誤的系統一樣
我在"背影"裡回應了

有時候
我們不能...
是因為
這世界的主宰有祂的決定與目的吧

我會,似笑非笑地,以嘲諷的語氣
學莎士比亞「暴風雨」劇中女主角米蘭達說
"啊!美麗新世界,
有這樣的人在裡頭!"

真是,美麗新世界哪

yu said...

我覺得應該是”這樣品德的人,就讓他出生了吧”
這個世界本來就是形形色色各類差別相的集合
如果沒有他們
我們又怎能從對比中發覺世間的良善與邪惡
進而學習超越
邁向心中的淨土呢
我覺得我們所能做的
就是在觀照這個世界的眾生相之後
或是安分守己
不讓這個世界更糟一些
抑或力挽狂瀾
讓這個世界更美好一些
這聽起來或許浪漫了點
但若不如此
又該如何

Jim said...

母親節, 提醒我們感恩母親的一切...

能勾起許多值得微笑的感謝
能喚起許多值得落淚的辛勞

母親, 永遠是最美的

不只有人類.........

看看眾生愛護自己兒女的樣子

我們...怎麼可以

讓我們以"山珍海味"慰勞母親

你....怎麼捨得

剝奪別人的母愛成就歡愉

變形的慶祝..紀念日..商業行為

讓原來創立母親節的感恩.......

變得辛苦

hei said...
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hei said...

陪伴、信任好美的特質
看了您分享幼時相片
好像在述說不捨、想念
細嚼字字句句似也進入情境中
無常又不得不面對的實情
陪伴、信任的特質已融入個性中
實際上您母親還是一直一直都在陪伴他的兒
看著他發光
持續給許多人安定
美好的力量...
為您們喝采....

姚仁祿 said...

感謝Echo分享
是的,
我少用如此的語法;
但,
我思索在三,
還是用了;
誠實反映, 我的心念.

六十幾億,
早就過多了;
我不生孩子,
原因就在此.

姚仁祿 said...

yu
感謝分享,
懂得您的見解與善解;

我還是重申,
地球,
人已太多;
這麼多的人,
擠在一個房間裡,
是不對的.

怎麼辦?
無私, 也許就想得到答案.

姚仁祿 said...

jim, 感恩分享
正確的感恩母親節,
由我們做起.

共勉之

姚仁祿 said...

Hei, 感恩分享;
是的,
我常覺得,
許多決定的當下,
我回到兒時的情境.

謹此分享

yu said...

多謝回應
您太聰明了
我倒認為 做人 何妨傻一點

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因為家庭環境的關係,另自己很不想回家,雖在外求學,花二個月回家一趟,每當一回到家就後悔了,我不該回來的。

可是在一次母親節那一週的機構關懷,自己承擔的工作是影像記錄。有一個阿媽,就一直說不要拍她啦!人老不好看,可是自己用孫子的角度跟阿媽說,你讓我拍的話,我肯定會讓你年輕十歲,接著我將阿媽要我不拍的鏡頭,播放給阿媽看,阿媽臉紅了,她像一個小孩子一樣。 第二次我這個孫子太皮了,我將角度設好,我沒擺出拍攝的動作,可是我還是繼續和阿媽對談,一些時間過後,我又播給阿媽看。就這樣接二連三的情況下,我看到阿媽那種很單純的笑容,對於第一次拿DV,就有機會拍到,對我而言,我無法忘懷。

我恍忽也看到撫養我的阿媽,曾經也是這樣的笑過,每當阿媽要求我回求,總是以課業繁忙為理由,於是我終於有了想回家的衝動。

當然這種感覺不是只有此刻,我或許無法接受阿媽在沒有自己的陪伴下,就是來不及的感覺,至少我能在他離開之前,先陪陪她吧!因為自己早已失去了親生的母親,可是我能承受我生命中第二個母親嗎?

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