Monday, April 3

再想一遍:自殺(殺人)以前!

許多人知道羅丹的作品,沉思者

很少人知道,做個作品,本是羅丹"地獄之門"作品的一部份.....

為了表現十四世紀作家但丁(神曲)裡的"地獄篇"而做。

羅丹的沉思者,原始命名為"詩人"....
與其說是沉思,不如說是以詩人的敏感,透過地獄之門"凝視"著地獄.....

第一次看到阿嬤殺死孫子這則新聞,是星期天….
星期一早上,電視新聞,播個不停。

這是悲劇,然而,我們除了:
為死去的孩子,哀傷….
幫助已經殺人又自殺的阿嬤,打開思想的死結….
安慰孩子的爸爸(也是媽媽的兒子),他的驚嚇、矛盾、無奈、傷痛….

我們,還應該做點別的….
到底,能做什麼?
至少,每位看到(或報導)這則新聞的人,應該盡量把自殺(殺人)這件事想清楚!

人,遇見困境,思考難免打結而不自知….
偏激的行動,順著打結的思考而來….
一發不可收拾。

我沒有因緣,親問阿嬤,她當時,腦子裡想著什麼,就算有因緣採訪,我也不打算如此打擾;
我只能猜測,阿嬤大概是用以下的邏輯思考:

阿嬤的因為=卡債,失業,生病....
阿嬤的所以=放棄,不活了....
阿嬤的希望=一了百了....
阿嬤也希望=幫助孫子,一了百了....
阿嬤也許希望=不再因病,連累別人....

可惜的是,也許是身邊(或電視機上)沒有人認真告訴她,阿嬤的邏輯裡,少了以下這一段:
這種看似一了百了的「絕望之路」,絕對通往「地獄之門」,而且問題只會更大,不會消失.....

其實,看似絕望要自殺(或殺人)(或殺人再自殺)的時候,應該還有一件事可想;
還有什麼事,可想?
也許應該,試著想想:
(1)自殺(或殺人)(或殺人再自殺)都需要很大的決心
(2)既然自己可以有如此大的決心去自殺(或殺人)(或殺人再自殺),為何不先下定決心,做點別的?

能做什麼?
至少先試試,把下面的事想清楚:
(1)想想這輩子最想做卻不敢做而沒去做的好事;沒做,也許因為害怕(怕人家笑)(怕失敗)(怕…..等等)
(2)找到其中一件,就先下定決心去做,反正決心要死了,先做了這件事再說吧!

哪種事,叫好事?
只要為別人,不為自己的,大概就是好事,例如:
(1)不求回報的,去愛一個人....
(2)每天把你住的那條街的垃圾,檢乾淨....
(3)每天到你家附近的小學,幫助孩子過街....
(4)每天到醫院,幫助植物人翻身....
(5)其實,寫不完....

如果這些,都嫌煩,還有一件,至少先試試看:
什麼事?
先到街上去,見到任何人,都認真給他一個"最美的笑容"……

Jonathan Livingston Seagull(繁體中譯,天地一沙鷗)的作者Richard Bach(請看Wikipedia連結)說:Anyone desperate enough for suicide...should be desperate enough to go to creative extremes to solve problems: elope at midnight, stow away on the boat to New Zealand and start over, do what they always wanted to do but were afraid to try

華文簡譯是:「任何人,奮不顧身想自殺..... 都該,奮不顧身去創造,解決問題的新方法........., 做些他們一直想做,卻不夠膽量去做的事。」

如果,所有正面的好事,都不想試,還是執意一了百了......
認定了只有死了才是解決之道;

最後,還是請想想:
為什麼沒有一個正常的宗教認同自殺(殺人)?

為什麼?
因為,死了以後,逼你自殺的問題還沒解決.....
你還要面對....

但丁透過神曲....
羅丹透過沉思者.....
穿越時空,告訴我們.....

啊,請不要如此。

78 comments:

Anonymous said...

有道理!
但人生的許多無奈 也許是旁觀者(說得有點冷感)無法體會的
想想阿嬤 沒受過什麼教育 也許也沒人願意幫忙
更沒認識什麼有能力的人

卡債 也許只是她人生不順遂的最後一根稻草

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